You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take. —Wayne Gretzky
Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there. —Will Rogers
A man looked at my house who is an investor. While he never actually made an offer, his agent is in the same office as mine and they were discussing what he wanted to offer. When my agent asked me what I thought, I told him I couldn't go for it. After two price reductions a 14% cut was too much. I was miffed at the buyer, that he thought I should take that kind of loss so he can make money. The truth is that it is my house and I can do what I want with it, and I have the right to make sure I can afford a decent home with the proceeds of the sale of this one.
I have settled for less so many times in my life while others who are bolder and aggressive get more than their fair share. I have let my needs be subordinate to the wishes of others. This has been a pattern of behavior for me, which I am shedding like a ragged old garment.
I was thinking about an old boy friend today. I have remembered him fondly, saying that he never mistreated me. I suddenly wondered why that was good enough for me ? Simply that he never mistreated me? There was so much more I wanted from that relationship that I didn't get and while he didn't abuse me, he did mistreat me. He didn't want to date me exclusively, and he decided when we would see each other. His mistreatment took the form of unavailability and control. And I accepted it. I wanted to be with him so much we met on his terms. I was settling for less than the best in a relationship. I have done that in my marriage and other kinds of relationships. I have made others my priority when I was only an option to them.
Now I am single again, and being alone is hard. Valentine's day is excruciating without a sweetheart, but maybe I will always be single, because in my new life I don't intend settle for seconds and thirds. Not on the price of my home, not in my personal life, not in friendships, and certainly not in any potential relationship with a man.
Still, I have great hope--that I will receive the best in everything I desire in my life, simply because I won't accept anything less.
The lilies are from my garden. I can't see them now because they are in frozen ground under the snow but they are there--they come back faithfully every year.