Flowers are the sweetest things God ever made, and forgot to put a soul into. ~Henry Beecher
James was in the hospital a lot, but especially in the last two months of his life--4 times. They'd get his breathing stabilized and then after he went home he would start to go downhill again. The last time he was in the hospital we were told that he wasn't going to get better and to call hospice.
Most couples who are married a long time can look forward to a 50th anniversary, but that wasn't possible for us so I threw together a last minute party for our 45th. I did this for me as James wasn't really interested, but I felt the need to have a party. I got a cake from Walmart--James' favorite kind and invited people by word of mouth. He got out of the hospital on the 5th of June and the next day we had a party. The kids brought food and cooked out on the grill--James enjoyed their company and the food. Later friends came to celebrate with us-- or with me, since James got tired and slept through half the party, but I was grateful for those who were there for us.
The flower is a bloom on a cactus. I have had the plant for about 12 years, with nary a bloom, but it was covered with flowers for our anniversary. The plant hasn't bloomed since. I didn't get the connection until just now. God surprised me with flowers at my wedding and He did it again for my last anniversary.